boredom

July 17th, 2009 by aubrey-0801

Boredom. It is an emotional state experienced during periods lacking activity or when individuals are uninterested in the activities presented to them. In psychology, boredom has been defined by C. D. Fisher in terms of its central psychological processes: “an unpleasant, transient affective state in which the individual feels a pervasive lack of interest in and difficulty concentrating on the current activity.” M. R. Leary and others describe boredom as “an affective experience associated with cognitive attentional processes.” These definitions make it clear that boredom arises not from a lack of things to do but from the inability to latch onto any specific activity.
There are three types of boredom, all of which involve problems of engagement of attention. These include times when we are prevented from engaging in something, when we are forced to engage in some unwanted activity, or when we are simply unable, for no apparent reason, to maintain engagement in any activity or spectacle. Boredom proneness is a tendency to experience boredom of all types. This is typically assessed by the Boredom Proneness Scale. Consistent with the definition provided above, recent research has found that boredom proneness is clearly and consistently associated with failures of attention. Boredom and boredom proneness are both theoretically and empirically linked to depression and depressive symptoms. Nonetheless, boredom proneness has been found to be as strongly correlated with attentional lapses as with depression. Although boredom is often viewed as a trivial and mild irritant, proneness to boredom has been linked to a very diverse range of possible psychological, physical, educational, and social problems.
In philosophy, boredom is a condition characterized by perception of one’s environment as dull, tedious, and lacking in stimulation. This can result from leisure and a lack of aesthetic interests. There is an inherent anxiety in boredom; people will expend considerable effort to prevent or remedy it, yet in many circumstances, it is accepted as suffering to be endured. Common passive ways to escape boredom are to sleep or to think creative thoughts. Typical active solutions consist in an intentional activity of some sort, often something new, as familiarity and repetition lead to the tedious.
Without stimulus or focus, the individual is confronted with nothingness, the meaninglessness of existence, and experiences existential anxiety. Heidegger states this idea nicely: “Profound boredom, drifting here and there in the abysses of our existence like a muffling fog, removes all things and men and oneself along with it into a remarkable indifference. This boredom reveals being as a whole.” Arthur Schopenhauer used the existence of boredom in an attempt to prove the vanity of human existence, stating, “…for if life, in the desire for which our essence and existence consists, possessed in itself a positive value and real content, there would be no such thing as boredom: mere existence would fulfill and satisfy us.”
Although it has not been widely studied, research on boredom suggests that boredom is a major factor impacting diverse areas of a person’s life. People ranked low on a boredom-proneness scale were found to have better performance in a wide variety of aspects of their lives, including career, education, and autonomy. Boredom can be a symptom of clinical depression. Boredom can be a form of learned helplessness, a phenomenon closely related to depression. Some philosophies of parenting propose that if children are raised in an environment devoid of stimuli, and are not allowed or encouraged to interact with their environment, they will fail to develop the mental capacities to do so.
In a learning environment, a common cause of boredom is lack of understanding; for instance, if one is not following or connecting to the material in a class or lecture, it will usually seem boring. However, the opposite can also be true; something that is too easily understood, simple or transparent, can also be boring. Boredom is often inversely related to learning, and in school it may be a sign that a student is not challenged enough, or too challenged. An activity that is predictable to the students is likely to bore them.
Because boredom is an emotional state and not an activity, it is much harder to assess whether certain species may experience boredom. There is some evidence to suggest higher primates will find playthings (twigs, rocks, other environmental objects) to use for no purpose other than physical activity (or play). Curiosity and the drive to engage in activity could have been an important evolutionary development in primates; as they explore their surroundings, they can find new and useful items to suit different purposes. But the question remains whether the drive in primates like chimpanzees and orangutans to play with objects is purely for stimulation, or if they are attempting to find some function for the objects they find.

thank you for loving me

July 9th, 2009 by aubrey-0801

Today marks my 3yrs with God. How time flies. It was not so long ago when I had my first bible talk, when I started visiting the church, when I started studying the bible. It was not part of my plan but it was my heart’s desire. It was in 2004 that I would say, I formally search for God. I had a longing deep within me to get to know Him more. Although I felt even from before that He loves me and is always there for me but it was a one sided relationship. I get all the taking and He makes all the giving. There is no effort on my part to please Him. He was never a part of my day to day activities although I have my morning and evening prayer, and I always call on to Him especially when am out of work and my son is sick. It is during those times that I come begging for His mercy and His grace. Looking back I can’t help but cry. How selfish I was. How I always take Him for granted. How much I caused Him pain. I don’t deserve all the blessings that I have now. I don’t deserve the love that I receive from Him. But here He is still – loving me unconditionally even in my most unloving state.

God you had given me more than enough. You had taught me how to appreciate life. You had taught me how to appreciate even the simplest of things. Untiringly, you always remind me that life is beautiful, I only need to trust you more.

I can’t imagine life without you. You are the only one who understands me. Who loves me so so dearly and am sad that at times I can’t even give back the love that you truly deserves.

I miss you God. You know how much I treasure my moments with you. How much I love talking to you.

I really don’t know what lies ahead. But one thing I hope for is for me to be faithful till the end. I pray that no matter how tempting the offers of the world may be, I will still be firm in saying NO. I pray that I will not get bored in my relationship with you, that I will be excited knowing that one day you long to see me too. I may not be your perfect daughter but you know how much I love you. I may seldom share about you but you know deep within me how much I wanted to. You know my heart’s desire. You know how I want to go on a mission and not think of anything else but you. But I don’t think am capable. I don’t think am equip. If the gauge of having great relationship with you is through a buffer of memory verses, I will fail. Funny God but I only have in mind a lil few.Nakakahiya.

As I start my new year with you, I believe there are a lot of challenges out there waiting for me. Youdon’t want these things to happen but you allow these things to happen for me to grow.Because if not, I will be back in my old self again where nothing else matters but working real hard just for a living.

I will always be encouraged by what Paul tells us about God “is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine” (Ephesians 3:20). This power of God’s is not merely an abstract capability He reserves for creating planets and stars and universes. He is also at work within us who are His children. His power lives inside us, working from the inside out. Our part is to cooperate what He is doing, not to get in His way, to let Him achieve in our lives what He wants to and not to insist on doing things “our” way.

This I should always bear in mind.

Cheers God! Thank you. I am happy to be with you. I am secure because of your love. I hope you had felt that I love you. Because I really do. I just don’t show it at times.

My Bestfriend

October 12th, 2008 by aubrey-0801

He is my bestfriend

He taught me right things

He corrects me when I’ve done wrong

He encourage me everytime I struggle.

 

He is my bestfriend, I won’t let anyone destroy

my relationship with him

I love him because he is my friend and teacher

He saves me when I am in danger

He is the light when I was once in darkness.

 

In return, I will obey his teachings

I will share his teachings to others

I will do right things

I will love Him.

 

I thank God for having Jesus in my life

He is not only my friend and brother

He is not only my teacher

But, He is my Lord and Savior. (BJ, 09-16-08, unedited) 

A sense of purpose

July 27th, 2008 by aubrey-0801

And David said, “What have I now
done? Is there not a cause?” (1Samuel 17:29 KJV)

 

At a street
meeting that was held by a Salvation Army group, a young drummer in the band
reflected on his past life and how it had changed. “Before I was converted,” he
said, “I used to drink a lot, and womanize, but I don’t do any of those
anymore.” Then, he added, “Since I was converted, about all I do is stand on this
street corner and beat this old drum!

A lot of people
– before and after conversion – feel like this man. They get up, go to work,
come home tired and start the day all over again. Or they do the carpool, get
the grocery store, make sure the kids have their lunches and start all over
again.

What’s the
purpose of your life? Simply beating the old drum day after day, or is there
more?

 The Bible says that you were made in the image
of God. That gives definition and purpose to life and contends that God has a
plan for your life. Without God, life appears to be without rhyme or reason, a
journey without a destination.

So how do you
come into relationship with God? The first step is to acknowledge that you need
this relationship.

The second step
is to understand that God sent His Son to bring us into that relationship, to
show us the way back.

The next step is
to find out how God wants you to live – His blueprint, His guidelines for
purpose and fulfillment. You find this in the pages of the Bible, timeless
textbook on living.

Coming home to the
Father allows Him to give you guidance so you can love, live and enjoy. It’s
the only way your life will have a sense of purpose. (Dr. Harold J. Sala, The
Philippine Starweek, July 27, 2008)

true enough. it is only through having a personal relationship with God that you find joy and contentment in life. the only way we will have a sense of purpose.

why there are challenges

July 7th, 2008 by aubrey-0801

why there are challenges -

- to build and strengthen our faith
- to get us out of our comfort zones
- to wake us up from our wrongdoings and sin
- to refine our faith and character
- to prepare us for bigger responsibility
- to align us to His plan

challenges. we face it everyday. no matter what your status in life. rich or poor. christian or not. beautiful and the not so beautiful.
crisis reveals our heart. testing shows our true color and character. let us look at how BIG is God and not on how big is the problem. let us focus on God more not on the situation. let us always be reminded that God can turn defeat into victory, can turn failure into success and can even turn our tears into pure joy/laughter if only we follow His will. always stand up for what is right especially at times of challenges.
we need to stand up for God. do what is right. don’t exchange your relationship with God to money or anything.
let love reign in your heart. if love reigns in your heart, it will reign in your family, it will reign in others. we need to be reminded that we are an expression of God’s love. don’t allow situations, problems to take God’s love away from us.

the world’s greatest man

June 18th, 2008 by aubrey-0801

How does God measure the greatness of man?

The world’s greatest man –

- admits his mistakes & weaknesses

It is very common that men are afraid to ask for forgiveness. Very seldom they say “I’m sorry”. This is all because of pride. Time will come God will expose their sin. If your heart is full of sin, you cannot be happy. Your heart feels heavy. Confess to God. Open up. Repent.

Do you admit your weaknesses or you try to cover it up? If you continue pretending, you will never overcome your weaknesses. Do not be afraid to confess your sins for it is there that you will be free. Admit. Do not worry. God doesn’t keep a record of wrong. God’s love is unconditional.

- finds his strength on his knees

Prayer is our means of communicating with God. A great man finds his strength on God through prayer. The world’s greatest man prays. He finds his strength on his knees.

Our battle is a spiritual battle may it be our finances, work, or health. So lift everything up to God. After all God controls everything. Praying is showing our humility before God.

- seeks God’s way and courageously follow it

Do we seek God’s way or our own way? God looks at someone who seeks Him and follows Him, not his own way. May be right now you are seeking God but something is bothering you, a situation or may be yourself. Then its time to repent and surrender yourself to God. Temptations are everywhere but if we continue in seeking God then everything will be fine. Do not give up. Do not compete with the world but please God.

Seeking God is our daily responsibility. One way of doing it is through our daily times with God. Our quiet time with Him. Sing. Read the bible. Have a deep talk with Him.

Have you found the world’s greatest man? If yes, you are blessed. Take care of him. If you haven’t found the world’s greatest man yet, then keep praying and patiently wait. He must still be out there, fixing everything for God’s perfect timing.

my heart grieves, she is so selfish

May 19th, 2008 by aubrey-0801

i don’t know how to start. i just want to pour things out.

am having my "pain attacks" again. this had made me uncomfortable these past few days. my scoliosis is not getting better.  i have no idea why.

the pain reaches my right leg. i haven’t consulted a doctor. i need to the soonest.

am still having my 8hr government job. i have embraced the reality that this is where i get my money to support myself and my son in a way. i have learned to love the am not used to "system". working in the private sector is really different. you are more  exposed to "more professional" people. but am still grateful to God for He knows what is best for me.

may be He allowed me to have this present work for me to be humble, to be more patient and to forgive each time somebody causes me pain.

i am writing because i just learned that there are really "very selfish" persons around. my pain attack is there, i am not comfortable, i asked a favor, i want to borrow a chair, a plastic chair that i believe could help ease the pain. ease the pain in a way that it has a good support for my back. it would simply be a replacement/in exchange for the office chair that i am currently using.

i am sad. my colleague dint allow me to use the chair that she only uses as a "chair for her bags". i don’t think it matters because in the first place, i am only going to exchange the chair that i am using with the chair that she is using for her bags. i don’t get her point. she even said that why only now i am experiencing pain that it had been for long that i am using my current chair? if only i know why.

if only i am still in the private sector and still can decide on things, i have long terminated her.

but i believe God wouldn’t be please with my action. reason really why i am here. i pray to God that He will always protect and guard my heart and i thank Him for the mercy each time i go wrong.

Greek Salad

March 4th, 2008 by aubrey-0801

It looked different from the Greek salad that I used to have. But when I tried it – my goodness! It tastes great! It was the same salad that I love – the feta cheese, the basil and all. How I missed it! It makes me miss my life on the island. It makes me miss my restaurant. It makes me miss  Mandala.

I want to savor each ingredient. With every bite comes a precious memory on mind. A distinct taste. A therapeutic aroma. The exciting flavor. It makes me crave for more. I don’t want to stop. I want to finish everything that’s on the table. But it is past 9 in the evening. A late dinner. Not good for my tummy. Not good for my health. It would be me who will suffer. So Aubrey – discipline. Resist. You can do it. And I did.

I can’t help but write. I can’t help but express. I thank God for this beautiful day. A very productive day. But I believe I can do more.

It is almost midnight. I am sleepy but will wait for the documentary on Macau. I would like to visit the place one day and want to have a preview on what is life out there.

And to sum it all – I thank God for the Greek Salad I had tonight.

baptism

January 29th, 2008 by aubrey-0801

Romans 6:3-4

“Or don’t you know that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.”

Baptism. Most of us had experienced this during our infant days. It is part of the stages of life that we need to go through as Christians. But do we understand the reason why is it so? We were too young to know what had happened. We only have our pictures as evidence. And of course the godparents that we go to at Christmas or who gave us gifts on our birthdays.

In the New Testament, baptism is how we come “in contact” with the death of Jesus. Baptism follows repentance. There could only be one baptism. Baptism is a participation in the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus, it is not ceremonial. Baptism is not a removal of dirt from the body but an appeal to God for a clear conscience, through the resurrection of Jesus Christ. Baptism is not an empty command but one with a promise.

I had my baptism last July 9, 2006. It was only then that I understand why I need to go through it. I felt happy because it is written in the scripture “Whoever believes and is baptized will be saved; whoever does not believe will be condemned.” (Mk16:16) But it doesn’t end there. I still need to work out my salvation. I need to follow God’s will. I need to fulfill my purpose as a disciple.

When I acknowledged Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior – everything changed. I had this feeling that is unexplainable. I believe it is because my sins were forgiven and I was given the gift of the Holy Spirit.  But life after is still not that easy. I still face different situations everyday. I still have my share of struggles every now and then. I still flare up at times. But what makes it different this time? I have God in my life. I have Him who reminds me to take things easy. I have Him who understands me in any way. I have Him who never gets tired of holding me. Isn’t that enough to keep me going? Plus, I have Him who loves me unconditionally – no ifs, no buts. Can I afford to hurt Him?

As for my salvation – only God knows. As long as faith lives in my heart – I need not worry.

everyone pls find time to read esp disciples

January 20th, 2008 by aubrey-0801

Dear Brothers and Sisters,

We appeal to you in behalf of our brother and sister, Mike and Gigi Caballero from Quezon City Central Region of the Metro Manila Christian Church.

Mike and Gigi are faithful disciples since their campus years. Gigi is a 15 year-old disciple from the University of Santo Tomas, while Mike is an 11 year-old disciple from the Pamantasan ng Lungsod ng Maynila. They both grew in the Church from Campus, Singles then to the Marrieds Ministry. They served the Church as Bible Talk and Housechurch Leaders.

In May 2004, Gigi was diagnosed to have Kidney Renal Failure, a condition where her kidneys ceased to function. In order to live, she undergoes twice a week of dialysis and continuous medication, which amount to a monthly average expense of P40,00.00 (around $930.00). Mike married Gigi in 2005 and since then had sacrificed greatly in order to help Gigi. He presently works in Singapore as Technical Support to help make ends meet and to save every single peso for Gigi¡¦s kidney transplant. In three and a half years, they both have spent around P1.72M ($40,000) in dialysis and medication.

Because of the financial burden of her illness, Gigi continues to work in Chinabank Greenhills Branch as Customer Relations Assistant, even though she is mostly physically weak, usually hypertensive and anemic as effects of kidney failure. Since the dialysis is already taking a toll on body, she needs to have a kidney transplant in March 2008 that will cost a total expense of P1.83M (or around $43,000.00).
This amount covers the donor, cross-matching, tissue matching, laboratory tests, the actual kidney transplant and monthly medication for anti-rejection within 1 year after operation. Even after the kidney transplant, Gigi will continue to take medicines for the rest of her life.

Through the help of their families, they have raised around P700K ($16,279.00) which they painstakingly saved for the last 3 years. However, they still need around P1.1M (approximately $26,000) to cover all expenses. As volunteer friends from the QC Central Region, we have organized ourselves to help raise awareness and financial support for Mike and Gigi.

We enjoin as many disciples to participate in our fundraising drive entitled ¡§SAGIP BUHAY ¡V Help for Gigi Campaign¡¨. In Metro Manila, we have several activities lined up such as:

„X Prayer and Fasting Chain - We call disciples from different regions in Metro Manila to embark on a prayer and fasting chain from December 2007 to February 2008 for the following specific prayer requests:
o That we are able to raise the money needed for Gigi¡¦s cross-matching procedure, kidney transplant and anti-rejection after the operation.
o That the blood and tissues of Gigi and her donor will match.
o That Gigi¡¦s body will not reject the new kidney.

„X Coin Bank - We believe those P5 or P10 coins can make a big difference. Disciples can get one coin bank for themselves, or even for the whole family. They may deposit those coins directly at Gigi¡¦s bank account or contact the volunteers and we will schedule a pick-up date for their convenience.

„X Tree Planting - By helping Gigi, disciples will also be helping our environment by signing up on our tree planting program. We will plant a tree for every P200 donation for the SAGIP BUHAY Fundraising Campaign.

„X Fun Run - For the health enthusiasts, we are organizing a fun run where disciples could bring their friends and family along. Tickets for the fun run are sold at P200.00 only.

„X Special Pledges - For disciples who are moved to give more, we are very grateful for their special pledges.
For our friends overseas, we ask you to please include Mike and Gigi in your prayers. Should you wish to donate any amount, we will be forever indebted to you for your sacrificial hearts. May we also ask you to forward this to other disciples.

Gigi¡¦s Bank Account Details are as follows:

Peso Savings Account
Account Name: GERALDINE T. CABALLERO
Account No.: 105-343871-2
Bank Name: Chinabank Greenhills Branch

Dollar Savings Account
Swift Code: CHBKPHMM
Account No.: 105-711401-6
Bank Name: China Banking Corporation
Greenhills Branch
Greenhills Shopping Center
San Juan City, M.M. 1502

For more details, please contact:
Ralph Arino (0918-9387550) expertralph@yahoo.com
Vida Ortiz (0917-5455384) vidaortiz@yahoo.com

Thank you very much in advance for your support.

In Christ,

¡§Friends of Gigi¡¨
http://helpforgigi.pilgrimasia.net

VIDA B. ORTIZ